So, he’s finally popped the question? Congratulations! Now comes either the most fun or stressful part: Planning the wedding. To make sure the balance is tilted more in favour of “Fun” and not “Stress”, the tips below should help!
When you start floating your wedding ideas to family members and friends, be prepared for an avalanche of opinions and advice. Everyone and their mums will have something to say about your wedding, and you need to be able to filter the input so it doesn’t drive you crazy. What you could do instead, is to ask for the opinions of the people who truly matter to you and will respect the final decisions of you and your partner, no matter what. Everything else is just white noise.
It’s normal to want your wedding to be absolutely perfect, especially since it happens only once in a lifetime (for most of us). However, if you want to maintain good relationships with your partner, his parents, and your bridesmaids, you need to have some healthy perspective at all times. While it can be disappointing to find out that the flowers you wanted at the wedding aren’t in season, or that you don’t have the budget to make those personalised favours for your guests, remind yourself that all those things don’t really matter, in the larger scheme of things. What does: Knowing that the people you care most about are there with you to celebrate one of the most important days of your life.
In between juggling your full-time job, planning your wedding and dealing with all curveballs Life throws at you, it can be easy to lose touch with the person who matters most to you. Always remember that you’re in this together, and that planning your wedding is the first of many stressful situations you’ll have to weather as a couple. Schedule date nights, remember to cuddle, and always set aside some time in your day to talk to one another. Be sure, too, to voice out any concerns you may have about your big day. If you can weather the stress together, it will bode well for your marriage.
Having a wedding planner seems like a luxury … until you take into account the fact that she may help you save a lot more in the long run. Wedding planners have a wealth of vendor contacts at your disposal, so they’re in a good position to you let you know what you can or cannot do with your budget, and make recommendations accordingly. Besides ensuring you don’t overspend, wedding planners will also see to all the nitty-gritty details, saving you a ton of stress as the date of your big day draws closer.
